With Chakra Psychology & Swadyaya, this topic primarily addresses individuals who lack self-confidence. Often, these individuals have been, or still are, entangled in difficult or toxic family situations, workplace environments, relationships with spouses or life partners, “friends,” or other challenging circumstances. But what exactly does this topic entail? And how can the knowledge derived from Yoga philosophy or Greek/Roman Stoicism, which are very similar, help us build solid, unconditional self-confidence?

 

What does self-confidence mean?

According to Google, self-confidence is defined as “trust in one’s own abilities and strengths.” I would add:

“Unconditional trust in one’s own abilities and strengths and in oneself as a human being, just as the Creator has made me.”

 

What is the purpose of self-confidence?

From my perspective as a Yogi—and thus, in a sense, as a Stoic—having self-confidence means that doors will open, and almost all will come effortlessly. Without it, the doors remain closed, no matter how hard you try.

 

How does a lack of self-confidence manifest in people?

Although we do not know every person in the world, a lack of self-confidence tends to manifest in two distinct ways:

1. Through shyness, withdrawal, and submission: The lack of self-confidence is evident through verbal and non-verbal cues, at least to a Yoga therapist. Most people, however, become unconsciously aware of it.

2. Through arrogance, "overconfidence", and dominant behavior: What? Is this serious? Yes, it is. The behaviors listed above are merely attempts to mask a lack of self-confidence. This issue is cleverly hidden from others and even from the individuals themselves, usually throughout their entire life. Such individuals often appear to have strong self-confidence and seem to have everything under control. While some individuals in this category are an open book for a Yoga therapist, many require careful observation and time to reveal their act. These individuals often influence the subconscious of others, making it difficult for people to see through the façade. This is partiulatily true for those who have identified with the first category since childhood.

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What do shy and dominant people without self-confidence have in common?

Both types tie their self-confidence to external circumstances and the validation of others.

 

How can I build solid self-confidence?

Developing healthy self-confidence cannot be explained quickly and easily, as it is a longer process. However, it is an enjoyable one that provides a sense of freedom from the very beginning. There are challenges for both groups:

Shy, withdrawn and submissive individuals usually have an easier path from our perspective. Unfortunately, they often don’t believe this because they understandably feel that dominant people always have the upper hand. But in this case arrogant, dominant individuals have to face greater challenges because they must admit that they lack of self-confidence and acknowledge that their arrogance is a mere façade. Also, the have to admit as well any past behaviors that were inconsiderate or harmful to others, which can make the journey even harder.

A healthy self-confidence can only be built on honesty, facts, and reality—not on appearances, pretense, or lies.

 

How can Chakra-Psychology & Swadyaya help individuals lacking self-confidence?

The ancient Yogis used a practice known as Swadhyaya (self-study), while the Greeks and Romans adopted a very similar philosophy called Stoicism. In Yoga and Chakra Psychology, we combine both approaches. Stoicism we use above all to accommodate individuals who may have reservations or fears about Yoga or Indian culture.